Nov
28
Abusive Personality
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A set of features that can uniquely identify one person from another is defined as personality. One’s personality is usually determined by experiences and knowledge that helps to deal with the matters that arise as life goes on. Therefore, developing one’s personality is a must to succeed in life. However, an abusive personality is a particular kind of personality that is harmful to others as well oneself.
A person who has an abusive personality tends to display certain characteristics; these are more commonly termed warning signs. Although the display of these signs does not necessarily imply that one has an abusive personality, a greater number of warning signs suggest a greater inclination towards abusiveness. The specific traits that are displayed include, excessive jealousy, possessive and dominating behavior. It is not surprising that the abusive person will hide their dominative behavior in an act of love and concern which the victim will tend to fall for, but with the passing of time this behavior will escalate and become severe presenting] dominance and control by threatening and influencing. A person with an abusive personality would also try to seclude the other party from any social interactions by suppressing them to associate with friends or relatives.
Another characteristic of a person with an abusive personality is applying impractical expectations. There is always that person who wants to be the perfectionist that would go to the extent of blaming others for not meeting their expectations. This is definitely an irrational and impractical mindset] of an abusive personality. Furthermore, the person will always deny responsibility for any violent or negative acts caused by him/her. “It wasn’t me!” would be a common phrase by the abuser because they are never to be faulted for any act of violence they may have intended. It is commonly stated that they were provoked to act in such a manner by the victim.
An abusive personality would also compel the person to be hypersensitive and therefore, they are easily offended or disturbed. As a result, relatively small day-to-day events may cause the person to lose his temper. Abrupt mood swings would also occur in a person with an abusive personality causing him/her to act as a very caring and loving person one moment and suddenly, turn into an aggressive person, the next. Verbal abuse is also common among the persons with an abusive personality, through which he/she would frequently humiliate the victim using cruel and strict comments.
There are conseling and guidance services that can help those with an abusive personality and assist them in overcoming it. It should be remembered that it is not a disgrace to look for help for oneself when it is needed.
