get your ex back

The reason relationships end can be grouped into three categories.  You wronged your ex, they wronged you, or relationship drift.  This article deals with the first two reasons.  You can learn more about Get Your Ex Back In Hours here. 

If, for example, your ex cheated on you or you cheated on them, there is a very important strategy you can use to get them back that can work in hours instead of weeks or months.  This strategy is called venting.  Venting is when you or someone else gets things off their chest.  What does this have to do with getting your ex back fast?

Because when you get dumped by your ex, it means that the good feelings they had for you are now replaced by negative feelings.  Anger, sadness, hurt, betrayal now take the place of happiness, pleasure, love and intimacy.  This is easy to understand.    But hardly anyone knows what to do about these negative feelings.  Sure, you can wait a month or six to see if time heals the wound, but what if you want your ex back in a day or a week?  Is there any way to speed up the process of healing those negative feelings?

One powerful way to resolve negative feelings is to vent them.  To let them go.  To get them off one’s chest.  So you can call you ex and ask them how what you did made them feel.  That’s a start.  Then you have to be quiet and let them start telling you, let them start venting.  You can get a complete system for Get Ex Back here that goes into detail.

Look at it like a balloon filling with the hot air of negative feelings.  You want to prick the balloon by inviting your ex to vent.  It’s not hard, but it takes a bit of practice.  You want to make them feel heard and understood.  You don’t argue or explain or defend yourself.

You use this same method in reverse if your ex wronged you in some way.  If they committed infidelity and you kicked them but want them back, you need to clear or vent your negative feelings over what they did.  You need to let go of those feelings before you can really trust them some again.  You do this by asking them to just listen to you and not explain or justify while you talk.

You already know about this tool.  You’ve probably used it many times over a beer with a friend getting things off your chest about work or your personal life, for example.

Venting, along with a few other steps, can make a big difference in getting your ex back fast.  It can help you get them back in hours instead of waiting months and hoping they will get over it eventually!  You can get a free course on Get Relationship Help here.

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